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Everything You Need to Know About Dating a Cancer Woman

Astrology can help us understand more about ourselves and the people we love/date/hopelessly crush on—no matter their gender. For more deets on Gemini compatibility, check out our guide to dating a Cancer man and our gender-neutral guide to dating a Cancer.

When dating a Cancer woman, you need to understand that like the Moon (their sign’s ruler), their emotions change from day to day. On some days, they may be extremely affectionate and want to have you nearby, and on other days, they may need some solo time and can feel overwhelmed by your presence. Try not to take the flux in their emotions personally—it usually isn’t.

Cancer is a cardinal water sign, so much like a flowing river, Cancer women are always moving, navigating around hard places and other living beings. They’re natural nurturers, which explains why they need to take time for rest so often. They are givers, and it’s important that they keep people around them who understand their need to replenish their cups.


Cancer women require a partner who is understanding and willing to be their comforter. For this reason, a Capricorn or a Taurus makes an ideal partner for these tender crabs. Capricorns tend to have a protective and mature front, which helps Cancer feel safe to express her watery self. Tauruses are natural nurturers who love to love—their affectionate nature makes them a perfect match for a Cancer.


Gemini and Sagittarius are two “proceed with caution” signs for Cancer! These sister signs may mean well, but their tricky ways and childish antics might end up stressing a Cancer woman all the way out. Gemini falls into Cancer’s house of self-sabotage and secret enemies, so you can see why it’s easy to vote that mercurial sign out of the running. Even though Geminis might want to support their Cancer girlfriend, sometimes Geminis can behave in confusing ways that inevitably hurts Cancers’ feelings!

On the other hand, Sagittarius is exceptionally adventurous and excellent company…which may be more literal than one might initially realize. Sagittarius falls into Cancer’s sixth house of work, routine, and health. At their best, they level up together. At worst, they exhaust each other. Either way, always look to the entire birth chart to determine full compatibility—it’s always more complicated than just the Sun signs!


My main point: Don’t do anything super out there. Cancer women are extremely wise, which means they know that a first date is exactly that—a first impression, a first attempt, a new person. At its best, a first date is the first step to going from strangers to potential lovers. There’s no need to do any wild antics or loud proclamations of interest! Keep it low-key and ask them out to a speakeasy or somewhere a little mysterious. If you take the time to find a spot that very few people have actually visited, they’ll thoroughly appreciate you. The key to charming a Cancer woman is to make her look special. Then, as you’re beginning to get to know her more, you’ll be able to show her that she’s special!

Pro tip: Maybe consider checking out the restaurant or venue before you take her there. It’s always exciting to find a highly-rated place, but if the food or the vibes are off, then your boo is going to feel it! The key to winning your Cancerian lover’s heart is not to rush things, because they surely won’t. They are keen to vibes and sensing the mood, so be mindful of your Cancer woman’s facial and body expressions. You’ll know exactly how she’s vibing if you pay attention. Good luck!